Spiritual growth does not just happen; it requires intentional effort enabled by the grace of God. Praying and reading your Bible form the basic building blocks of spiritual growth, but they are by no means the only facets there are to growing spiritually. The following are some guidelines you can follow to help you grow spiritually.
Humble Yourself Before God
Humility is seeing yourself as God sees you. Humbling yourself before God means you assume a position of need, dependency and obedience. This attitude of humility allows God to best support your growth process.
Find Areas Where You Need to Grow
God designed us to be in a process of continual spiritual discovery and growth. It is up to us to take the initiative and find out in which areas we are weak, broken or immature. Ask God to search your heart. He will use His presence, truth, circumstances and other people to reveal the areas that require growth. To grow spiritually, we have to risk the human tendency to avoid pain and to want to stay in our comfort zone. A spiritual person is continuously on a quest for growth.
Find Growth Contexts
Actively seek out people and places where spiritual growth occurs. Join a healthy church and groups full of grace and truth that have experience and success in the area on which you wish to work. Ask God to lead you to the right context where you can grow.
Seek Reality and Truth
Take the initiative to get information about the challenges you are experiencing. Be aware of the human tendency to minimize the seriousness of your condition or the need to appear to be like someone who has it all together. Keep yourself open to feedback from others.
Keep Your Heart Available and Vulnerable
It is a human tendency to want withhold and protect ourselves, but to be emotionally present requires action. The fruit of growth can only come to the full when you let others inside. With the love and support of God and other people, you can face the hurt and pain. The realities of the past, your sins, and your hurts, must be grieved, accepted, repented of and comforted.
Take Risks in Areas Where You Need Stretching
This may involve being more honest with yourself than you are used to. Allow yourself to face painful emotions when you would normally avoid them. Pain is part of the process in a similar way that a physiotherapist has to stretch and move a painfully injured muscle.